The Allure of New Beginnings

Posted by on Jul 12, 2017 in Writings
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“Nothing in the universe can stop you from letting go and starting over.” — Guy Finley

I have spent the better part of my life dreaming of distant places, wishing for wild adventures, and yearning for new beginnings. I’d practice mindfulness to live in the moment, but I quickly learned that the moment is hard to live in when that moment just isn’t right. I’d spend my days searching for tree houses to escape to in Hawaii, researching universities to study at in Vancouver, and reviewing visas to move to Melbourne. I didn’t care too much about where I would go or what I would do there, I just wanted to start over.

Putting roots down in a city where no one knows me, hiking mountains to see views I have never seen before, and creating memories with a group of new girlfriends all seemed so alluring. I could drink my way through the local cafe’s coffee menu, buy fresh produce at the neighborhood farmers market, and get lost in the stacks at the nearby library. Better yet, I would have the chance to transform into the ‘perfect’ version of myself, the person I have always wanted to become. I’d forget, only for a brief moment, that the one thing I can’t leave behind is myself, imperfections included.

I now find myself in the midst of new beginnings. The allure has worn off and reality has set in. Starting over welcomes the discomfort of new surroundings, disruption of set routines, and dismissal of familiar faces. You must learn to seek the uncomfortable to become comfortable, embrace the disruptions to minimize stress, and accept the absence of old friends to find happiness in being alone. View new surroundings as stomping grounds to explore, new routines as opportunities to modify poor habits, and time alone as lessons in how to be alone but not lonely.

In time, this place will become your home. New surroundings will become familiar backdrops. New routines will become regular practices. Time alone will lessen and time with new friends will flourish. Refrain from seeking yet another new beginning, you are already living it. Take pleasure in the new places and appreciate the new faces. Reflect on the past days, the weeks, and the months. Remember that while the allure of new beginnings may have worn off, you are still just setting the stage for that new leaf to turn over.

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  1. Really moving and inspiring piece Julia, maybe we should appreciate life a little more, the adventure of it!

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    1. Exactly, we are always wanting something more when we already have so much. Thanks so much Katie!

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  2. Great post. Have a nice day 😊
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    1. Thanks Deria, you as well!

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  3. Love this Julia! Totally inspired me for sure! xo

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    1. Oh I’m so glad – thank you, Lynne!

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  4. Beautifully written! I moved a lot when I was younger and I relate to everything you mentioned. I’m glad I’m not the only one who liked going somewhere new for a fresh start.

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    1. Happy to hear this resonated with you! Thanks for reading, Char <3

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  5. This is a beautiful article. We used to move around all the time when my husband was transferred for his work. Always new beginnings and starting over, it wasn’t always easy but I am grateful for the people we met and experiences we had in each place.

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    1. Thank you for your kind words, Lisa. The people and experiences definitely make the memories, I’m glad to hear you found the same was true for you!

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  6. I love it: you must seek the uncomfortable to find the comfortable

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    1. Thank you! I can’t take credit since I’ve definitely heard that somewhere but it’s always resonated with me ☺️

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  7. Love this post! <3

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    1. Thank you, Caitlyn – happy to hear it!

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  8. You’re an excellent writer. This was really inspirational thanks for sharing

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    1. Thanks so much Sydney 🙂

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  9. Zorica

    July 13, 2017

    Great post thanks for sharing it+

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  10. I agree, we often forget that magic happens when you go out of your comfort zone. By the way, I want to say I really like the theme you have here on your blog. It looks very neat and aesthetic.

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    1. Definitely going for a minimalist look to match my new minimalist lifestyle 😛 I appreciate you taking the time to comment and am happy you related to the post. Thank you so much, Nelu!

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  11. There are lots of mini new beginnings, even in the same place.

    I like your thinking. Hope you settle in happily, but keep seeking the new adventures.

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    1. Yes, so true!! Thank you, Bernadette 🙂

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  12. New beginnings, great thoughts

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  13. Wow! Love this piece! I can really relate to EVERYTHING in this post, I feel the same way, I just want to get out, have a new life and just experience everything and anything this world has to offer, which is really what my blog is about too, just simply FINDING MYSELF. I’m so pleased to meet you and will be following to see where your journey takes you! GOOD LUCK!

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    1. Likewise! I’m so happy to have connected today, Autumn! Good luck on your journey as well – can’t wait for our adventures to come 🤗

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  14. Oh this sounds so familiar! I too find myself often dreaming of other (better) places, always restless in a way. You’re right though, we already have so much to be thankful for (sounds cliche but is true). Thanks for sharing!

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    1. Happy to hear this resonated with you as well 🙂 Thank you for reading!

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  15. I love the quote at the start, thanks for this inspiring post!

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    1. Glad you found it inspiring – thank you!

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  16. Yes, I try daily to appreciate the life I am living in the present!

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    1. That’s amazing, we should all learn to appreciate the day-to-day a little more <3

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  17. Great post! I wish I had read this a year ago when I was scared about my new beginnings!

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    1. Thank you! Life is full of new beginnings, I hope you settled in well 😊

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  18. Wow, what a talent with words you have! Lovely post, absolutely lovely. I’m also in the midst of a new beginning and trying to enjoy the present. Best of luck to you!

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    1. Aw thank you for making my day, Elaine! Best of luck to you as well ❤️

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